Hard Lessons

As I’ve worked my way through secondary school, I’ve learnt plenty of things the hard way. But I think the hardest thing I’ve learnt is that life isn’t a fairy tale and some people are just evil.

I like to see the best in people. However, people aren’t always great.

When you’re younger, you’re told fairy tales about how the mighty prince defeats the evil witch and saves the princess. However, when you get older, the like between good vs evil becomes gradually more blurred and that person you thought was your knight in shining armour could actually be a heartless witch in disguise.


The whole idea of good vs evil is something that really fascinates me. Are you born evil or are you raised that way? Can an evil person have a redemption arc? I’m in the process of researching for a properly science style article about the nature v nurture debate and how it can impact a person. That should be published next month at some point so follow my blog if you want to check that out!


Back onto topic, when I was younger, I dreamt of someone sweeping me off my feet and love at first sight and all that soppy crap. Now I’m older, I’ve finally started to realise that the world isn’t all blue skies, sunshine’s, and tan lines.

I don’t know when I got so cynical, but it was most likely after I got sexually assaulted for the first time. [I’m sorry, that was so blunt, I just don’t know how else to word it]. That was a turning point in my life. Yes, my short 15-year-long life. I realised that evil isn’t just confined to the pages of a book I read when I was five; but instead it’s a real thing, prowling, lurking around every corner, ready to jump out like a figment of your worst imagination.

So, life isn’t a fairy tale. It took me a long time to accept that, longer than I’d like to admit. However, now, I like to think that life is more of a comic book, and I’m Wonder Woman or something and I fight for justice while battling evil and looking hella good along the way. And, I’m okay with that. It’s better to be the damsel in distress who can handle it than the damsel in distress who’s weak and defeated.

As I always say, they may have tried to break me, but they forget I’m unbreakable.


Honestly, this isn’t my proudest work, but out of all the drafts I made for this article (trust me, there were loads), I liked this one the most. If you did enjoy this though, please like it, it’ll mean the world to me!

A Letter to Past Me

I have actually already done an article like this! But, instead of writing to my Future Self, I have decided to write a letter to my past self, six years ago, when I was 10 years old. Look at me go, linking stuff together!


Dear past Tati,

You’re about to go into secondary school this year! I know, you’re terrified of losing friendships and things, but trust me, for every shitty friend you lose, you’ll gain am amazing friend who will always support you through thick and thin.

I won’t lie to you, secondary school is tough. There will definitely be multiple moments where you’re ready to give up and just throw your future away. Don’t do that! Your future looks so bright and you got this.

You’ll explore and find passions you didn’t even know you had, you’ll learn so many new wonderful things, just make sure to take everything in and stay calm.

I know you love jumping into things head first, but try avoid it. Think things through and consider logical reasons to avoid doing something stupid.

Throughout school, you’ll find your voice. It’s a horrible journey to get there, but as soon as you do, you’ll be ready for whatever life throws at you.

You’re a tough cookie Tati. People have tried to break you before, but you’ll forever get up again and continue fighting and you’ll become completely unbreakable. As Legally Blonde’s Brooke Windom says: “what doesn’t kill us makes us hotter!” which is true, at least for your hair.

Don’t worry about your hair, just be warned that at the start of year nine you made a choice. Your hair is fine now though!

You can also do makeup, which makes you feel like the boss ass bitch which you are.

You’ll find yourself Tati, I do promise you that much.

Love yourself and give yourself more credit 🙂

Fifteen (almost sixteen) year old Tati xxx

Three Lessons I Want My Children To Learn From Me

I like this topic! It’s quite different but it’s a thinker and I’ve worked out exactly what I want my kids to learn. I don’t really want kids, but if I ever change my mind, this is what they need to know. I could have a few stupidly obvious things, but I’ve decided on three different things that I’ve learnt throughout the years. God, I say years like I’m old, I’m still not 16 yet! Yikes. Anyway… on with it!

1. Life’s not fair, get used to it.

A quote pulled directly from my Dad’s getting-your-daughter-to-shut-up-dictionary. Ever since I can remember, if I’ve ever complained about something pretty miniscule, my Dad would say that phrase. When I was younger, I always thought it was really mean, but now I’m older [yep, still acting like I’m super old. This will almost definitely be a reoccurring theme], and (a smidge) wiser, I realised it’s actually true. Life sucks, man. Either you can moan and groan at every single small issue, or you can shut up and strive on. The only way for unimportant things to leave you alone, is to walk around them in your path of life. Get used to the small annoyances in life so you can face them all head on when you’re ready.

Slight side-note, but please appriciate that ever since these imaginary kids have appeared, I am acting like I’m some sort of a prophet/God. Is this what having kids does to you? Wow, I have so many questions!

2. Aspire for success, and don’t accept anything less.

Kind of a cute story behind this one. I was talking to someone about how shitty all my ex boyfriends were and he said this to me. Even though he meant it about partners, I feel like this applies to pretty much anything. I just love the idea of aiming high and achieving it, and I feel like these “words of wisdom” pretty much mean that you should never rest on your laurels, no matter how much easier that may be. You were bought here to achieve great things, so it’s only fair that you at least try.

3. Never shut up. It’ll be your greatest quality.

In my lifetime I have been called almost every slur in the book. All because I stand up for what I believe in. Make sure that if you believe in something so strongly, you will go to the ends of the earth to get your voice heard. As you grow older, your voice will merely become louder and those who try silence you are just jealous. Be proud of yourself, you’ve made it this far 🙂

What If… I Was A Man For The Day?

What if… I was a dude for the day? This is a question my friend and I… Who I shall call Sonic, ask each other loads. For context, Sonic identifies and a male and he wonders what it would be like to be a woman.

We ask each other this loads, because we have ideas, certain thoughts about stereotypical gender roles and we’d both love to trade ends of the spectrum just for a day and see how differently we’d be treated. To be completely honest, I think Sonic is just infatuated with the thought of having boobs and I’m the same, but for… oh God, my parents are going to kill me, and my grandparents – I’m so sorry guys…. and I’m the same, I want to know what it’d be like to have a penis. Come on though, peeing standing up?! That sounds pretty magical if I’m honest with you.

One of my biggest questions for guys is, how does the world see you? If you’re a woman, your one goal in life is to be a gorgeous trophy wife, but what if you’re told you have to be the breadwinning husband? Are there sets of rules you have to obey when you’re a male, I know that toxic gender roles prevail with both genders, but what is the mould for a “real man”?

I just think it must be so bizarre to not have to panic about leaving the house alone, not worrying about being scrutinised about every little idiosyncrasy you posses, not having to feel intensely judged for the clothes you wear or how much makeup you apply.

What’s it like to not be sexualised on the daily? Not having to freak out whenever you hear footsteps behind you or having to walk with your keys in your hands as self-defence, just in case?

I’d love to have friends and class mates ask about me and my life instead of if I’ve found a boyfriend yet or what happened with so-and-so.

I don’t know. I have so many theories on how men are less judged, but I’m sure that’s not true. I would like to know, just for one day, see the world through a man’s perspective.

My Thoughts on Jojo Rabbit

I have never found a movie which could make me laugh at one moment and cry the next with the click of a pistol before Jojo Rabbit.  This incredible film follows 10-year-old Jojo (Roman Griffin Davis) in Nazi Germany towards the end of World War Two who lives with his Mother – Rosie (Scarlett Johansson) who is helping to hide a Jew – Elsa (Thomasin McKenzie) from the clutches of the concentration camps.  Riddled with dark comedy and Hitler being an imaginary friend, I strongly recommend the watch.

The cast is incredible.  It includes the talents of well-known actors such as Rebel Wilson, Scarlett Johansson, Sam Rockwell, Stephen Merchant and Taika Waititi (who also directed, produced and wrote the screenplay for this amazing film).  But also introducing emerging actors such as Roman Griffin Davis, Thomasin McKenzie and Archie Yates who are possibly the most talented actors and actresses I’ve ever seen.  Roman Griffin Davis perfectly portrays an innocent German boy who is simply swept up in all the Nazi Propaganda but also is a truly funny, sweet boy who just longs to be Hitler’s best friend.  Thomasin McKenzie represents a feisty girl named Elsa who tries not to show her true fear of being taken away by the Nazis.

The film raised awareness of what so many of the history books fail to mention.  It shows a far more humane side to Germany during World War Two:  the few who longed for the war to be over and those who simply longed for the war to be over so they could go back to their loved ones.  The few who put their lives on the line to protect others.  It showed how even though some Germans were Nazis through and through, not all Germans’ are bad – an important message to today’s society.

The one issue I have with this film is the rating.  Of course, this is not the film’s fault as it was the BBFC who rated the film but there are honestly no other negatives.  This film is rated a 12A, but I think it should be rated a 12, at least.  This is due to the fact that there are some scenes which are extremely upsetting and very violent and could distress younger viewers.

Other than that tiny, miniscule issue, I really recommend this film as it is definitely worth the watch.  There is no wonder it’s been nominated for so many awards and I can say, hand on heart, that this film deserves to win every single one.



Nominated Awards – Wikipedia