I Made Taylor Swift’s ME! Dress

Since the music video came out in 2019, I have adored this dress…

I mean… just look at it!

I wanted to get this dress so badly, but it was pretty pricey, to be exact: $4,995.00 pricey.

So, I did what anyone with a passion for sewing and belief that I could be the next Coco Chanel or something, I went on the prowl to make my own Taylor Swift dress. And this… well this is how it went.



The hardest part was finding all of the parts. After two whole days of searching, I finally found everything I needed. If you want to make this dress, then just click on the photos and they’ll take you to the links!

Flowers from Amazon (£9.99)
Organza orange Butterfly for Millinery butterfly decorations image 0
Butterflies from Starboxcraft on Etsy (£3.60)
Image 1 - Girls Women Tulle High Waist Maxi Dress Skater Flared Pleated Midi Skirt White
Skirt from Ebay (£8.98)
Black V Neck Swimsuit
Swimsuit I’m using as a top from New Look (£9.00)

As you can see, it was all relatively affordable and I’m really happy with the quality of each of the products I bought.

After it all arrived (which took about a week or so), I got to work on sorting out how I was going to attach the flowers onto the skirt.

With the help of my Grandma, (thanks Nana!) we both pinned all of the flowers and butterflies where we felt they would go the best. This took us a bit of time, because we had to work out where the colours went best, but we were both really happy with the positioning of all the flowers and butterflies.

I love how all of the colours turned out! I chose these monarch butterflies because they are my favourite type of butterfly and, quite simply, I loved the variation of colours for the flowers.

Ready to sew!

Over the remainder of that evening, whilst on the phone to my boyfriend and whilst watching Netflix, I hand stitched each of the objects onto the skirt. This took some time, but I knew I couldn’t have used my sewing machine due to the delicacy of the fabric. I found it very relaxing, and I made sure that each of the threads matched the flowers exactly. This was a very subtle thing, but I felt it made all the difference, and meant the flowers stood out instead of their fastenings.

NOTE: Before pinning, all the flowers had little plastic parts which were the stigma (the centre of the flower which provides pollen). They had little holes at the bottom so you could attach a wire/”stem” to them, which meant that you could make a bouquet, or a flower crown. This was great, but I couldn’t sew them on! So, I had to remove them, and then sewing them as you would with buttons or sequins, making the thread the stigma instead. I found them to look even better like this, and I could make them as 3D as I wanted!

After I sewed all the flowers onto the dress, I was done! This project didn’t take me long at all. The reason it felt so long was because I had to wait for everything to arrive. Overall, if you have all the materials, you could do this in six hours – tops.

If I was to do this again, I think I would buy a petticoat as I feel that the skirt is not full enough, but that could just be personal opinion.

This is the final result, and I am honestly so happy with how it turned out!! I am now finding any excuse possible to wear it, and I don’t think you can blame me!!

the final result♥️

Please comment and let me know what you think, I was so proud of myself and I love hearing from you lovely lot. 🥰

Have a great rest of your evening!

xoxo, Tati x

Not All Men, But All Women: A Discussion

Finally, we’re having the discussion I’ve been trying to start for years now, it’s just a shame that an innocent woman had to die in order for this to begin.  I want to start by giving a disclaimer that this article will have strong language, talk about mature themes such as sexual assault and rape, and it’s just generally not suitable for younger audiences or people who get distressed when reading the topics, I will be bringing up.  Your safety is the most important thing.  I also want to say that I mean absolutely no disrespect to anyone, I am simply here to explain what is going on and so are those I spoke to. 

About a week after the discussion of women’s safety became extremely present on mainstream media, I knew I had to talk about it 

What’s going on at the moment, how it’s affecting people, I speak about this so much, I decided to get more people to talk about it and include my input to the situation.  However, I soon realised, I have done this sort of thing a lot.  Some examples can be seen herehere and here.  Since I write about this so much, I decided to ✨spice things up✨ and I asked a favour from some of my friends.

I wrote up different questions in a questionnaire and I got them to answer them honestly, and I’ve put them all here!

To make this a fair test, I didn’t give them any of my input before or during them answering the questions, made each of the questions the same, and told them it would be totally confidential. 

For certain answers I have received, I may crop or leave out/slightly edit some questions.  Not the overall message, I’m just going to ensure they are not too long or reiterate similar things which have already been stated.

I asked seventeen different people, and I have changed their names to protect their identities. I just want to say a huge thank you to those who did this for me, it means so much and I am so grateful to know people as incredible as you guys, especially considering I don’t always speak to you all that frequently.

The sixteen people I have chosen are essentially the future. They are 16-17 year olds, we all went to the same secondary school and now all attend college/sixth form. I know this isn’t a diverse mix, but this doesn’t make what they say any less important. The lovely people who helped me are:

  1. James, 17, male
  2. Daniel, 17, male 
  3. Elizabeth, 16, female 
  4. Avis, 17 
  5. Bailey, 16 
  6. Andrew, 16, male 
  7. George, male 
  8. Teresa, 17, female 
  9. Jason, 17, male 
  10. Ryan, 17, male
  11. Betty, 16, female 
  12. Amelia, 16, female
  13. Jeffree, 17, male 
  14. Ana, 17, female
  15. Brent, 16, male 
  16. Harper, 16, female 

Now, after that extremely long introduction, here is the Q&A I had with those sixteen people ❤


  • Do you feel safe walking alone?

James – Yes

Daniel – I do for the most part. If it’s late and I’m on my own I feel a bit sketched out. Generally, I’m always cautious but I’m not scared.

Eliza – Not really, but I guess it would differ depending on the situation.

Avis – When I am with a group of people especially guy friends, I do feel safe but, when I am alone, I don’t always feel safe.

Bailey – No strong answer, as I don’t walk alone very much.

Andrew – Depends – usually on time and area.  

Teresa – No 

Jason – No 

Ryan – I feel safe walking home by myself most of the time but not late at night

Betty – No 

Amelia – No, especially not at night. 

Jeffree – Yes 

Ana – no, not at all

Harper – no I don’t feel safe when walking alone, especially at night

Brent – I don’t feel unsafe unless it is dark. [still wary though]


  • Do you worry about the safety of the women you care about? 

James – I do

Daniel – Absolutely.  I always worry about them

Eliza – I do yes

Avis – Definitely. When walking home from school or after hanging out with friends and having to go separate ways home I [think] I should probably walk my female friends all the way home just in case something happens. Which is horrible that I actually have to think about that.

Bailey – I do worry about them.

Andrew – Yes.  It’s a scary place for women with creepy men catcalling and things.

George – yes 

Teresa – yes 

Jason – Yes

Ryan – I absolutely care about the safety of the women I care about.

Betty – yes 

Amelia – Yes definitely 

Jeffree – Of course

Ana – yes, a lot 

Harper – I worry about pretty much any other women I know

Brent – yes


  • What do you think the government can do to ensure this gets better?

James – Spread more awareness about the subject as well as providing more in-depth information to young women and men about their safety.

Daniel – I think that there could be more foot police patrols around high-risk areas like alleys or secluded paths. But other than that, it comes down to people to not be pieces of shit.

Eliza – I don’t think it’s something that the government can fix. I also feel like a lot of the ideas that females would come up with, many men would feel are sexist.

Avis – Maybe if we can start trying to enforce this idea of “No means no” at schools earlier on things could change. We also need to get rid of this idea of “boys will be boys” and “she asked for it”. There are just so many toxic ideologies embedded into society from a young age.

Bailey – Rather than focusing everything on the female population, they should be finding a balance of resources, education and information for both women and men as to how they should be acting in situations such as these. And I honestly feel like the government need to be more open in discussions because they don’t seem to be as bothered with protecting women

Andrew – Maybe better lighting in the streets at night?  And/or harsher sentences as a deterrent.  If you rape someone and only get five years, that is an unfair sentence as the woman is affected for life

Teresa – Teach children better. Make sure people know the importance of consent, not only consent but enthusiastic consent and that anything less than yes means you should step away. Teach the importance of supporting people after going through that kind of experience.

Jason – I think they can and should put an emphasis on the safety and protection of women who are victims of assault of any kind, and they should try to keep an up-to-date list of people who have been reported for offences, and they should always talk to the parent of a young offender no matter what the offence.

Ryan – I believe more education is required and societal norms need to be shifted.

Amelia – I’m not particularly sure about what they can do because they can’t control the actions of each individual person.

Jeffree – I don’t believe the government can do anything. 

Ana – Make it legal for women to carry some sort of self-defence.

Harper – they need to work harder to educate boys on the issue and make me of an effort to prosecute for rapists and assaulters cause too many get away freely

Brent – honestly believe there is very little that the government could do that would help the issue. I think that feeling on edge and cautious is a good thing as it means you know when to keep yourself safe but when it comes to feeling in danger the only real thing that could solve that is stopping the people that cause this feeling.


  • Do you think women should have to go to any more safety precautions?

James – I don’t think women should have to in the first place

Daniel – women shouldn’t have to worry at all no matter what they’re doing or what they wear but the unfortunate reality is that some people make that impossible

Eliza – I don’t think that it is fair that females have to more careful when walking around in their own neighbourhood than what men have to.

Avis – I mean, there’s already so many different “precautions” women have to go through, I hope there isn’t more.

Bailey – Unfortunately, for women to be able to stay safe alone, they may have to which is really sad.

Andrew – I don’t think women should have to because they should feel as safe as a man should.  But during this time, it’s a good idea to take precautions such as rape alarms and things.

Teresa – Women are already doing enough, more than we should. 

Jason – No, I don’t and I feel as If they take too many already. They should never have to feel as unsafe as they do, and women should be able to feel as if they can leave the house without fear of being assaulted.

Ryan – I believe they should go to a level they feel comfortable with doing but it is disgusting that they should have to take any precautions in the first place

Betty – They need to, but they shouldn’t have to 

Amelia – Women already do everything that they can to keep themselves safe and recent events have proven that even that is apparently not enough. At this point the issue is not women not doing enough protect themselves, it’s the men (obvs not all) that feel that they are entitled to women’s bodies.

Jeffree – I feel they should have something to protect themselves if they are walking alone 

Ana – Yes, they should be able to carry some sort of protection just in case.

Harper – I don’t think it should be a women’s responsibility to put in any more effort than they already do

Brent – If the woman feels unsafe it isn’t their fault. I think that only men can really change this.


  • What can men do when walking to make women feel safer?

James – I don’t know what men could do to make women feel safer while walking, since the same would apply to women and what they could do to make some men feel safer while walking

Daniel – keep their distance, cross the road, go on the phone or just straight up go another way if it’s late and the woman is clearly nervous. I always feel so bad walking close to women on the street because I can tell they’re on edge and it is just so sad how our society is like that.

Avis – Although this goes out to women as well, if they see a woman being harassed on the street or looking very uncomfortable while talking to someone, going over and calmly helping the woman away from the situation, like pretending to be a friend and asking where they’ve been or something like that, could really save a life.

Bailey – I think for men, they really need to give up the whole macho thing. Sometimes trying to be all big and strong and protective of women doesn’t always get the right results we need and instead only makes people see women as weak

Andrew – Tough situation, similar to being a teenage boy, smile and wave politely, carry on with your day seems to calm people down and helps make people happy

Teresa – Cross the road, call a friend. Or at least not get annoyed when we do things to protect ourselves if they won’t.

Jason – Men can cross the road, or call someone, or should attempt to get ahead of women so they can feel safer.

Ryan – Men can keep the eyes and thoughts to themselves not everyone is there for you talk to complete what you’re doing without disrupting others also if you’re continually going in the same directions as someone change your route, so they feel safer

Amelia – Walk female friends’ home if it’s dark or dusk, cross the street/don’t get near to a woman you don’t know when they’re walking alone, please don’t catcall

Jeffree – Protect them making them feel safer

Ana – If their friends with the women just walk them home, but if their a strange cross the road and walk on the other side or walk slowly so they’re not close to the women.

Harper – educating themselves is a big one, and standing up for girls if they notice something bad happening, calling out their mates if they say something like make a joke, and making efforts to look unthreatening when walking near a girl, or like crossing the road or something

Brent – try to make sure you aren’t walking behind a woman. if you are then cross over to the other side of the road. or if this isn’t possible stop for a while to make good distance between you.


  • What are your thoughts on changing the curriculum in order to try avoiding these issues?

James – More information on the subject to educate men and women about their safety and ways to know when a situation could pose threat

Daniel – 100% schools should teach the subject just like they teach anything else. Don’t avoid the subject! People should learn how to behave.

Eliza – I think that during younger teenage years such as year 7 to 11 could have a topic about sexual crime would help to educate young people about the world that we live in and how we can avoid incidents

Avis – should be introduced taught about “no means no” and issues around it but maybe said in a more positive-reinforced setting and sprinkling the teaching of these kind attitudes throughout multiple lessons so it becomes the normal for the children?

Bailey – I think everyone needs to be educated in these types of topics. Because past generations were never opening about these types of things it’s left our generation to speak up about it and make changes so that we won’t have to see this again in the future

Andrew – Great idea, ensure consent is not “just a box ticking exercise”, it needs to be something important.

Teresa – I completely agree the curriculum should be changed. The argument that young people shouldn’t have sex and so shouldn’t be taught about those things is stupid. People will have sex at any age, and no one can stop them, they should just know the importance of consent and safety. And it’s not like when we get older the teachings around it changes.

Jason – We should change the curriculum, so consent and sexual assault is more important than it already is.

Ryan – I believe curriculum particularly in younger education needs drastic changes.  The first years of education the focus should be upon behaving as any decent person should

Betty – I think they should change it to better educate girls and boys about the reality of the world

Amelia – I think that schools should educate students more on these issues because it’s a very real and relevant problem.

Jeffree – something needs to change for people to feel safe

Ana – They could spend more time explaining it and showing documentaries.

Harper – I think they need to change the curriculum, education kids from a young age will help engrave it in their minds that this stuff is not okay

Brent – I think it is extremely important that schools educate us better on these issues.


  • What about false conviction rates? Fake rape claims? How do we avoid these miscarriages of justice?

James – I believe there are many women and men that will use fake rape claims to get what they want in selective situations; I believe the only way to ensure the avoidance of such claims would be by intensive investigation on both parties to understand the exact situation that took place

Daniel – The amount of fake rape claims is tiny in comparison to actual rape claims or rape that never goes reported. I think people who make fake rape claims, male or female, should be punished but it is by no means reason to Besmirch someone else’s claim.

Avis – Although it’s a very small percentage compared to true convictions, it is still a big issue and one used to put down women who have been raped so that the rapists get off easy. I have no idea what can be done of this issue, but I hope we can find one soon.

Bailey – I have a specific thing to say about false accusations and claims and it’s tied with how, despite things are now being talked about, stigma is still around and there’s now the romanticisation of [these] serious concepts which makes it incredibly difficult to gain the right balance

Andrew – It’s hard to prove without evidence, for both sides, the only way is DNA and witnesses.  False convictions happen less often than rape cases being ignored, but you cannot always instantly believe women because it could ruin a man’s life, but you can’t believe the man as that could ruin the life of the woman.  I don’t know what to do.

Jason – I am aware that it is something that happens. I feel like these should be made aware of.

Ryan – There are already laws in place for such things if it’s clear that the accusation is made up, prosecution for deformation of character and filing a false police report should take place but more emphasis on believing the accused more methods should really be placed into preventing rape and femicides than preventing a smaller issue crime. If those two can be resolved I am sure the fake accusations would be more clear

Betty – people should be prosecuted for fake claims 

Amelia – This is a difficult question because you get caught up between victim blaming and “innocent until proven guilty” and protecting the public. In certain cases where evidence is lacking, proving/disproving cases can be difficult. I don’t know how this issue can be overcome.

Jeffree – feel if someone files a false rape claim they should get the same punishment as what the falsely convicted [would have] due to them ruining their lives.

Brent – there is very little that can be done to prevent them without causing controversy over the fact that the rape claim could be true.


  • Do you think that tea video helps? What else could we do?

for reference, this is the video I am talking about:

James – it touches on the subject in a very joking manner, it would make more of a difference if it was presented in a very serious tone as well as [providing] information about the consequences of their actions

Daniel – it really is not serious. If you’re trying to teach kids something important, teach it to them seriously. Consent is such an important topic.

Eliza – Although it has stuck in a lot of people’s heads after seeing it, of those people a lot have clowned that video thinking it is all just a joke.

Avis – I believe it set out with the right idea, it slowly has become more of a joke than a video educating young people on a serious issue.

Bailey – It has a meaning but if people are going to be anything like us, they won’t take it seriously 

Andrew – The tea video is a good illustration, but kids look at it and don’t see the underlying message.  At the ages of 10-14 it could help, but above then, it won’t help at all and could be detrimental.  

Teresa – The tea video is awful. It is a joke in schools, and it takes away from the incredibly important subject. We should not be making jokes around the importance of this teaching. We should teach it in a way that doesn’t shy away from the message, regardless of the age. 

Jason – I do not think that the tea video helps at all because in schools it is just a joke, and it needs to be addressed more seriously.

Ryan – The tea video is awful it is not specific enough it euphemises a topic of high importance the point must be clear of the severity and the unforgivable nature of the crime. Greater sex education is required perhaps at a younger age particularly about sexual assault harassment and rape and the clear definitions of what they are as many young impressionable people may not have been aware that they have been taken advantage of

Betty – I think there needs to be more open and more frequent conversations and demonstrations about it for everyone

Harper – the tea video is confusing, especially to younger kids and makes it seem too much like a fun quirky little thing when it’s a serious issue, when they can show us scary videos for things like road safety but not rape you can tell there’s an issue. they need both hard-hitting videos and proper education on the topic, not some funny little YouTube video that they just ignore

Brent – While it is useful for getting the message across and is a national thing that everyone understands and remembers, it turns the issue into a joke.


  • What do you think about the hashtag not all men?

James – I agree as I know that a lot of men are very against any of these actions

Daniel – clearly not all men harass or rape, but the fact still remains that any man can be intimidating. Even I could be considered intimidating, so I know I need to keep that in mind. 

Eliza – I believe that it is correct. Not all men would mistreat women like some do however, because of the small amount that do, women are led to believe that all men are the same. Which in my opinion isn’t right?

Avis –I think all its doing is drowning out the women and the men who are talking about issues involving horrible men.

Bailey – I understand that not all men fit under the categories but the number of men who are involved is just too much and has become a sign of how toxic it is

Andrew – It’s factually correct, but equally, if that leads to a woman trusting all men and end up having negative experience with them, this will be detrimental in the long run 

George– it’s very true

Teresa – Yes, it isn’t all men, but it’s enough men and I believe that the men who say “it’s not all men” are the ones most likely to be misogynistic or have the ability to sexually assault as they wouldn’t feel the need to disagree if they weren’t insecure about their actions or thoughts towards women.

Jason – I understand that it isn’t All men, but the men and women who use it tend to be aggressive and seem to be part of the reason why the hate crimes exist. But I would like for the message to be given how it isn’t all men. Some look out for women, and they also want to protect those they care about.

Ryan – I think the hashtag not all men is stupid, shifting the conversation into a direction it doesn’t need to take in the first place it shows how little the majority of men care. they only begin to care when it harms their reputation. There is a distinct lack of empathy and lack of will to do what is right and the conversation must remain at the focal point of the problem preventing future generations from suffering.

Betty – I think it’s a fair point to make but it’s being overused and not always helping

Amelia – Obviously not all men are like this. We know that. The issue is that it’s ENOUGH men that it’s a serious problem. The problem is that we don’t know WHICH men and therefore feel a degree of uncertainty and fear around them all.

Harper – everyone knows the situation is not all men, no one thinks every man is a rapist or sexual assaulter, but statistically it’s enough to be scared, people are afraid of dying in a car accident, but not all cars are going to crash, and as a woman you’re more likely to die at the hands of a man then a car, so I think it’s perfectly justified to protect yourself, cause these bad men prey on the naive and vulnerable.

Brent – I think that the meaning behind the hashtag is correct in the sense that it isn’t all men but the fact that people feel the need to bring it up almost shows guilt. it shows that they care more about their reputation than the safety of women and that is disgusting.


  • What are your thoughts on victim blaming?

James – I don’t agree with blaming the victim for the actions that took place

Daniel – people who victim blame are just straight up pieces of shit. Nothing, *nothing* could possibly make the victim at fault. “They were wearing a short skirt” and? They don’t dress for you. Fuck right off.

Eliza – In my opinion, the process of victim blaming is fucked. The statement of ’she is asking for it’ makes me sick to my stomach as thinking about a woman as an object because she is wearing certain clothing.

Avis – Victim blaming is horrible. Someone has gone through something absolutely mortifying and people have the audacity blame them for what happened to them. All I can think about is “Haven’t they gone through enough?”

Andrew – Very simply, it’s one of the things which lead to court cases being dropped.  No woman is wearing a skirt with the intention to get raped that night.  She could be wearing a mini bikini with the Pornhub logo on, you do not touch that woman unless she explicitly says it’s okay.

Teresa – Victim blaming is awful. No one would ask for the trauma and PTSD that those actions lead to. No one would ask for the judgment received after people find out. No one would ask for that feeling of helplessness and disgust. Victims often blame themselves after going through that, why should you add to that.

Jason – What happens cannot be excused, and you should never blame the victim for what happened. People should be able to wear whatever they want and not be told that their outfit choice makes them a victim.

Ryan – Victim Blaming is fucking disgusting.  You wouldn’t blame the seller at a store if an armed robbery takes place, it’s no different from any other crime. support is what’s required after a crime. 

Betty – it’s awful in any circumstance

Amelia – Blaming women is absolutely ridiculous. The only people that can be blamed for rape are rapists.

Jeffree – Stupid, no one asks for it it’s stupid how people think people can ask for it 

Ana – It’s terrible because it makes the victim feel worse about the subject and like they aren’t valid.

Harper – it’s never the victim’s fault, ever, this is a traumatic event they’ve been through and to belittle that in any way it’s such an awful thing to do

Brent – victim blaming is disgusting- the person that commits the crime is the only one at fault


  • Do you think it’s in the best interest of the woman to report the assault or not? Why?

James – Yes, I do so the person in question is delt with, assuming the report for assault was genuine

Daniel – I personally think women should report their assault but I know it isn’t that easy.  I think their claims should be acknowledged, respected, taken extremely seriously and investigated and the assaulter should be punished severely. Whatever makes them the most comfortable is what’s best for them.

Eliza – Certain women that have experienced sexual assault don’t feel comfortable to share with loved ones, family or friends, let alone the police. 

Avis – Although as a society we are getting “better”, I still believe it’s really unsafe for women to talk about these things and come out about them. There will always be a person telling them it’s their own fault or giving them grief about the situation. It sucks. However, there are a lot of people out there now to help women and back them up. So maybe a better world isn’t so far away?

Bailey – It would be but again, people think they’re fake or just brush off it off so I don’t think it would always work

Andrew – It depends, in an ideal world, all rapes would get reported, all crimes would be convicted, but sadly that’s not how the world works.  If you have enough evidence, go for it 100%, if not just for you then do it for others.  If you think it will harm your mental health, then don’t do it.  It sometimes ends up with guys thinking they can get away with it, but you should to anything you can to try ensuring that you get justice.

Teresa – It often depends on the situation. 

Jason – I think that women should know that they can report it and have something come of it, but with the way it is handled currently, reporting it to the authorities is something that is entirely up to them. It needs to be addressed differently because not enough comes of it.

Ryan – I wish it was in the best interest of a woman to report an assault but often can lead to far greater backlash. But I personally think the first step toward changes in action for every voice that speaks out another may gain the confidence to do so and the clear increase in reports will require change from the police and greater intervention and prevention would take place as a result

Betty – if women reported it as much as it happens then it will open a lot of people’s eyes and help to progress a more efficient way of prosecuting and maybe even preventing

Amelia – you would also be protecting other women by having dangerous people taken off of the streets. However, going through the process of police interviews and trials and experiencing almost a guaranteed degree of victim blaming would be incredibly taxing on one’s mental health, having to relive awful experiences would be terribly traumatic.

Jeffree – I would rather they report it because they could get more assistance, but I don’t know about how much assistance there is for victims 

Ana – I think it depends on the woman feels, if she feels that she can deal with reporting it or not.

Harper – as things are currently, i think it’s always the best idea to report, but that doesn’t mean it’s at the women’s best interest. 

Brent – whether it be reporting it or telling someone you trust i think it will often be in their best interest not to keep it to themselves. while reporting it has a large chance of not resulting in any convictions, not reporting means there is no chance at all for justice.


  • Is there anything else at all you want to add?

Daniel – people should just behave with basic decency. It’s really not hard. People who do assault or rape are lowlifes who can’t be bothered to stop and think. They have no empathy and I barely consider them people to be honest.

Eliza – just a bit of advice… From a personal experience I have had, do whatever you want to do with the information that you have. Whether that is reporting it to the police, keeping it between you and your friends or telling no one. Don’t feel like you are obligated to tell anyone whatever the situation.

Avis – To conclude everything I have said, the world sucks, if time, but maybe there’s hope for us yet?

Andrew – To any guys with female friends out there: try being with them as much as possible, not because men need to protect women but because it’s far less likely and no one will hurt them or try anything.  If you’re considering it: think about it as if it was your daughter, sister, or mother that this was happening to and if you’re a girl, support other girls, don’t gang up on them.  And the educate your sons movement is a great idea – something which my opinion has changed on over the past month.

Teresa – The issue will continue unless someone does something. Whether it’s changing the curriculum to teach the impacts that actions can have or changing the process for convictions. No matter what it is, something needs to be changed.

Jeffree – More support is needed to make people more comfortable coming forward with confidence to report an issue instead of hiding it from people

Harper – I just want to say I hope people don’t let this be another trend that dies out in a week cause it’s not popular to talk about it anymore, because that happens too much


  • What questions do you have? Who for?

Daniel – what can I do as a man to make women as stress free as possible whilst going about my day-to-day life? 

Andrew – For most guys: how hard is it to be a decent human being? That’s more rhetorical but, it counts.

Teresa – for any person who has ever raped or assaulted anyone. Why? What compelled you to put a person through that?

Harper – to men who say not all men, why are you so desperate to make yourself seem so good? cause to most women it makes you seem way worse than better.

Brent – I would love to know how women feel, I have had conversations with family members about their opinions and they are as expected but a range of views would be interesting.


First of all, thank you again to everyone who helped me to write that. I know that it wasn’t easy for all of you, but you all did it and it really means so much and it was interesting to hear everyone’s take on this issue.

Thank you so much for reading this incredibly long article, I really hope that it has opened your eyes and that this is a topic which will continue to be spoken about until change finally happens permanently. Similar to the BLM movement, how many more innocent people have to die until we realise we need to make a change? Hopefully no more, but until that day comes, I’ll be here shouting from the rooftops until I go hoarse.

This is one of the hardest articles I have ever had to write, but I honestly feel so much better now that I have done it. I’ve also put so much work into it, even if it doesn’t seem like it, but thank you so much for reading. Please comment your opinions because I would really love to hear them.

Stay safe, stay kind, viva le resistance baby!! (we’re bringing that back), I love you all,

xo baby, Tati xoxo

Dying Black Hair for the First Time!

Something a little bit different for you lovely lot today!

As you all know, I have really dark hair, as in natural black hair.

my natural hair colour

If I ever wanted to dye my hair as a kid, I quite simply couldn’t. Whilst all my friends could get cute wash in wash out colours, I had to stick with my dull black hair.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love my hair. I have so many people tell me that they love it, and I do too, I just desperately wanted a change.

Since lockdown started, I’ve been ready to do something drastic, and I finally decided to dye my hair. I really wanted to dye it a funky colour, but I needed to start with bleaching it.

Now, I was way too scared to go the whole way, so I decided to instead to ombre it. I thought this would work as a good gradual change, and I’m honestly really happy with the results.

The original plan was to dye it pink, but as you will soon see, that wasn’t totally plausible so we changed our minds!

This is the journey of me dying my black hair for the first time ever.

DISCLAIMER: I am not and in no way a hairdresser. this is not at all a tutorial, this is simply me explaining my ✨journey✨ to all of you beautiful people. If you actually want to dye your hair, make sure you research, complete the patch test, and follow instructions. Stay safe!


This is the bleach I decided on! It wasn’t my first choice, but my first choice was sold out and this had some really great reviews so I decided to just go for it.

After reading up on how to get an ombre and watching countless tutorials, I decided that I needed to split up my hair into small chunks and then apply dye below the elastic band. So… I did just that.

you can see in this photo that I have all the staples needed. The gloves, the old t-shirt (green is not my colour at all…), even the instructions and the mix!

After that, I got super distracted by the little pot/container the little gloves came in; it looked so cute!

look at it!!! it’s just so small and cute and compact!
finally, I was ready.

As I did not at all trust myself with bleach or dye at all because I am super duper clumsy and things, I decided that the smartest move would be to let my parents do this part for me, and I must say, my Dad has a hidden talent for dying hair, he does it really well and evenly!

Done with the dye!

After that I had to wait for about half an hour, which was very boring and very uncomfortable. Luckily, I had my phone, so at least I had something to do! I then washed it out and added the conditioner, having to wait another 10 minutes for that to work. Finally I washed it off! I was so excited to see my new blonde locks but… it didn’t really go to plan…

you can see it… just…

Although I loved it at first, I was disappointed with the fact you can’t really see it that well. It was a good start, but I wanted more…


So, a month later, I tried again. This time with the original bleach I had in mind.

round two boys!!

I went through the exact same process, following the instructions and everything, I could hardly wait, and I must say, the results are incredible…

the waiting game…

Finally, after impatiently waiting, I washed out my hair and… look! It’s not all black anymore!!

!!!

I was so happy! Each time I wash it it gets slightly brighter too, alongside my happiness.


All in all, I am super happy with my choices, decisions and everything. My hair still feels pretty healthy which is great and I love it!

Have you ever died your hair before? What happened? Let me know! I’m nosy 👀

IWD2021: Choose To Challenge

Happy International Women’s Day! The day which celebrates equality and women in general.

It’s not just IWD this 8th of March, no no, it’s also Commonwealth Day, the day in England which we get to start going back to school, and National Napping Day. Whichever one is most important to you personally, I think we can all agree that this Monday is one to celebrate.

This year International Women’s Day campaign theme is #ChooseToChallenge. The way to show your support is simply to strike the Choose to Challenge Pose and post it to social media! This way people will know that you are supporting inclusivity and equality.

Since I didn’t want to take the photo myself, I instead decided to challenge myself and draw myself doing the pose. This took quite some time I’ll be honest with you, but I am pretty happy with the end result and I hope that you can all see that it’s important that we choose to challenge gender bias, sexist talk and general inequality between men and women.

If you want to know anything else about International Women’s Day, go ahead and click here and I will see you next time!!

my first ever attempt at drawing on my laptop xx

one hundred posts.

I started this blog in September 2019. Even though a lot has changed since then, my blog has been the biggest constant in my life.

Through all the fake friends, rumours, partners, homework, grades, exams, sexism and inequality, this blog has been there for me. It’s here to help me rant and rave and yell. It’s my way of getting my voice heard in this world.

At the times I wanted to give up, I came onto my blog and it always helped to give me hope.

Now, I’m at 100 posts – that’s a lot. Even though I’m not a big fan of all my articles, I’d never delete them or change them for the world. They show my own personal development, opinions and growth overall.

I started this blog as a 15 year old who hated what was happening to the world. As I continue this blog, I have discovered that whilst I still hate some of what’s happening in the world, I am also grateful for so much of it. From the crazy friends I have, to the best family I have, to the random things which I cannot give up, I think I am so much better than I once was.

I started this blog to share my anger, as an outlet, somewhere to yell and scream. I’m now here, spreading my message of hope. It does get better, and I am so incredibly happy that I decided to stick it out to see how far I’ve come.

I started off with the only people reading were my family and some very close friends. But, as I’ve developed alongside my blog, I find that I have readers from all around the world, each of them reading what I have to say, over 100 different people, most of whom I don’t know from Adam, tuning in to hear what little old me has to say. It’s insane.

This whole thing is so crazy to me, but I am not going to be giving it up any time soon. I may have started this to prove the negative nay-sayers wrong, but I’ve continued it to prove that I’ve got this, that there is still a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how painfully long that tunnel is.

thank you, for giving me this platform and letting me post all my random things here, I love you all xxx

and to all those who thought I couldn’t:

I’m going to achieve even greater things, just you wait.

Making This School Year as Productive and Useful as Possible

Alternative Title: How To Make This School Year Your BITCH

With school coming up next week in really great pixels and definition, these next two terms are going to be insanely important for year 11’s, 12’s and 13’s. As it’s teacher assessed grades, it’s super important to put 100% of your effort into each assignment, test, essay and just classwork in general. These two terms will consist of you working your sorry butt off to get the grades you know you deserve. Whilst this can sound really daunting, I promise you it’s not. There are a few helpful tips and tricks I want to share with you all so that you don’t get overwhelmed this year and you can be prepped for the following year where everything will (hopefully) be back to normal.


DISCLAIMER: Whilst I hope that these will be useful for years 11, 12 and 13, I know that as I am in Year 12, this list will almost definitely be tailored towards my fellow Year 12s.


  1. REVISE, REVISE, REVISE. Whilst it may sound crazy, especially for any GCSE students, it’s so important to revise your subjects. If you want to do any resits, this time will be so greatly valued and appreciated by your future self. As for those who are meant to be doing AS Levels this year, if you want to continue on and do A Levels in those subjects, it is so important to revise the topics so that it can stay fresh in your mind. This will all help you stay on track and understand more when September comes around. Even for year 13s, it never hurts to begin revising parts of your uni course if that’s the path you want to take.
  2. Become an active class member. As much as you may loathe putting your hand up in class, it really can end up helping. Regularly contributing and communicating with the teacher will both help you understand the class way better and it will let the teacher know that you want to be there and you are enthusiastic and ready to learn.
  3. Be ready and prepped. I’m sure that all of your teachers say this to you, but you really need to show up to lessons with all the things you need. It helps in the long run, trust me. Bring your notes, folders, text books, texts to analyse, highlighters, pens, everything. Just pretend that you have your shit together and you can simply fake it ’til you make it – it’s what I’ve been doing for the past few years and it works pretty well I must say!!
  4. Remain Vigilant. Even though we’re going back to school and the infection rate has gone down, that doesn’t mean covid has gone away. No no no! Make sure that if your school wants you to keep your face-mask on, you Keep. It. On. Protect your peers, social distance when you’re able to, open windows when possible and really just stay safe. Protect your loved ones guys, it’s really important.
  5. Set yourself mini-goals. I always do this when I find it really hard to deal with my mental health. Just make a mini to-do list full of relatively achievable things and you can tick it off throughout the day. It can be something small like going to all your lessons, or eating a healthy lunch or something slightly bigger such as planning that essay, or handing in that coursework. Whatever it’s filled with, it never hurts to get a bit of motivation.
  6. Stay Organised. Having a mini planner to hand has never hurt anyone. Making a note of your lessons, homework set, birthdays and just other random bits and bobs have really helped me to survive lockdown, and I’m sure that it will help me to keep my shit together when I’m back at school half awake and grumpy because I can’t learn about tort in my jammies.
  7. Eat healthily and regularly. Something I know I’m going to miss about online learning is being able to eat whatever whenever. If I ever got peckish, boom I got to eat food. Since food and water is so important for your energy levels, don’t at all be afraid to pack a couple of extra snacks to keep up your energy levels throughout the day. If you just Google good snacks for energy, millions of articles come up and I can promise they will help you. Just remember to always have a bottle of water to hand as well as some snacks and a healthy lunch to keep you going throughout the day.
  8. Try and read ahead when possible. Even though it feels like we’re super behind our schedule and curriculum in general, it really helps to know what you’re doing in the lesson the day prior so that you can skim read the text book. That way you feel more prepared and even if you’re really not at all in the mood to do lessons, you can still kind of understand what the teacher is going on about which will help.
  9. Take notes. As painfully obvious as it sounds, it is so incredibly important to take notes, even if you cannot be bothered. They can be half-assed and scrawly for all I care, but it’s really important to jot down things so that you have them at a later date. I always also make sure I can access the PowerPoints for my lessons, that way I can also go through the lesson in my own time and get to grips with it myself. It’s something small but it pays off in end of topic tests and things!
  10. These things take time. As exciting as it is to be able to get back to school, it’s also very scary. You need to remember to wear face-masks, have hand sanitiser to hand (no pun intended), and there’s loads of extra rules to remember. Whilst this can be overwhelming, it’s important to remember we’re all in this same situation and we can try and face this head on. Take each day as it comes and don’t overthink anything too much. You’re already doing great and I’m sure you’ve got this! Best of luck, love you all, Tati xoxo

18 Things I Love

It’s come to my attention that I’m not always exactly a positive person. And that’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes you just need a bit of realism in your life. But after realising the fact I have two different posts about pet peeves of mine (yes, you read that correctly, two) and one more in the deep depths of my drafts for blog posts, I realised I really should start writing about what I like, my pet loves if you will. Actually, no, I hate that, I will try to think of something better. Yes, I do see the irony of that last sentence, but I will try to improve! As February is the month of love, I might as well at least try to spread some form of love, or at least appreciation!

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  1. When TV shows just casually add it bits of representation without trying to appear dIvERsE. I was so happy when Brooklyn Nine-Nine did episodes on police brutality and sexual assault, it really makes me happy that they don’t just pretend the world is perfect. Some of my favourite shows: Bojack Horseman; Brooklyn Nine-Nine and Superstore all casually have different bits and bobs of educational representation and I think it’s so cool. We really are in the golden age of television.
  2. Random compliments about good work. I love it when I actually put in a load of effort and my teacher acknowledges it. I feel seen and valued and it just makes me feel really nice and warm and fuzzy inside.
  3. The satisfaction of completing something which you’ve worked really hard on. I experience this whenever I do some schoolwork which takes me a long time, an art piece, a sewing project or even a song which I’ve finally mastered singing, I just love to feel like all the hard work I put in has clearly paid off and it makes me happy.
  4. Seeing someone you haven’t seen in ages and just picking up where you left off. That is a sign of true friendship and it’s such a lovely thing. I’ve seen it firsthand with my Mum and her best friends from uni, and it always makes me happy!
  5. Stickers! I absolutely love stickers. I do not care how old I am, if a teacher gives me the incentive of stickers for doing all my work, you best believe I will be doing all of my work, and more. This actually works as a really good revision tool for me as well – it’s the idea of positive reinforcement and doing something well so you can get rewarded for this. Psychology is fascinating. Long story short, if you want to see me cheer up, get me stickers!!
  6. When you’re thinking about someone and they just message you. I swear each time I do this I’m psychic or something. I feel loved and also like I am queen of the world. It’s a magical thing!!
  7. When you’re as excited about seeing someone as they are about seeing you. A few weeks ago I was out on a walk with my boyfriend and we ran into two of our friends from school and it was the most delightful thing because we were all so excited to see each other and it was clear we genuinely enjoyed each others company.
  8. When someone who you don’t really know just compliments your outfit. It’s something I love to do when I’m getting served at a restaurant or a place where there is no strict uniform. It makes the person feel good and it makes you feel good! There is something so heartwarming about a girl in my sixth form who I don’t know that well just coming up to me and complimenting my outfit. Girls supporting girls is great, you can’t change my mind.
  9. Being acknowledged for the things you do – saying thank you if you do something etc. It’s probably just something about manners and me being painfully British, but I love to be polite and people being polite to me back!
  10. That new book smell. God, it’s just so nice but I can’t explain it!!
  11. When a teacher says your work is exemplary – it’s a feeling of pride which will feel great at any time in your life.
  12. Waking up on a day which you’ve really been looking forward to. Everything just feels so perfect, it’s like you’re a Disney Princess or something!
  13. One of my blog posts getting lots of likes and gains me new subs – I always feel valued and appreciated and it means a lot.
  14. When you message someone and they reply really quickly. It doesn’t make me happy as it does make me feel extremely satisfied, and I love that!
  15. Hard work paying off, I know that seems to be my whole theme, but it just feels really great.
  16. Seeing a picture or video which just instantly cheers you up or makes you smile. I have a couple of videos on my phone of me and my mates which I watch whenever I feel down: instant serotonin boost.
  17. When someone hugs you and you just feel completely safe in their arms. There’s something about that safety which makes me feel so much love and happiness.
  18. When the light hits your room just right and a rainbow appears. I don’t care how old I get, this will forever make me incredibly happy and there’s something extremely magical about it. They’re so pretty!!

Lockdown Loving: Coronavirus and Valentines

“Love is in the air…” You know what else is in the air? Coronavirus.

This is the first ever time in my whole 16 years of existence that I will have a partner on valentines day. And, of course this is the first ever time in my whole 16 years of existence that I will be forced to spend it alone, at home, with Netflix, ice cream and general sadness. (It’s normally my choice which somehow makes it less depressing)

All jokes aside, this is going to be a pretty rubbish Valentines day. I normally spend it with my friends [like I did last year when I went to see Birds of Prey] and it’s sad because I miss my friends and my boyfriend and this lockdown seems to be so much more depressing than the last two. But as lonely as it can feel, I’m going to battle through it, and you should too! If you need a little push to stay motivated please read my latest post here, but if you want ideas on how to keep in contact and stay close with the ones you love while staying away, you’ve come to the right place! Everything that I write about here has got the Tati Tick of Approval – and they have really helped me get through things.

Before I officially begin this article I just want to remind you all that even though it may feel like it, you are in no way alone. You are strong, you are powerful and you can definitely get through this! It may feel hard at the moment but I promise that you can do it! Love you all xxxx


First of all, I’ve said since the start of lockdown, it’s super important to stay in contact with the constants in your life! At least once a week, I FaceTime my bestie, every single evening I Skype my boyfriend, and whenever I can, I talk to my grandparents. I also text all the ones who I love pretty much 24/7, and we have our normal, zany conversations just virtually! I know it’s tricky, but it’s better than nothing ❤

Plus! You can do all sorts of virtual stuff together! Have a pixel party! (trademark Tati). Spending the day together has honestly never been so easy! I watch one movie each week with my boyfriend (so far my personal favourites were Kung Fu Panda and Star Wars: A New Hope!), we also have times where we just eat together, and play games together! With my other mates, I’ll call them whilst I put on my make-up, I’m baking, working, and just generally chilling and enjoying each others company. It’s casual, it’s fun, and it’s perfect for those days that you just want to talk to someone or don’t want to be alone.

Give them gifts! Of course, the worst gift you can give them is a positive coronavirus test… so make sure you do this safely! Face masks and socially distanced at all times! You can send them letters, parcels (Etsy and Not On The High Street do some really great self-care letterbox parcels), care packages – just to show you’re thinking of them, and finally you can bake and deliver! Of course, all of these you need to be vigilant, but it means the world to someone, just popping around with some food, trust me 🙂

Finally, even though you can’t do cute things currently, there’s no problem with planning things post lockdown. It’s nice to see an end goal, even though it doesn’t seem possible right now. I’ve got a mini-list full of concert dates, theme park trips, movie marathons and more!


Just remember, you can get through this, it may seem hard right now, but tomorrow you’ll be one day closer to seeing the ones you love, and the day after that you’ll be closer too!

Stay safe, love you all,

Tati xxx

Did I Achieve My 2020 Goals?

I know, I know, this article should’ve been posted before 2021 started, not halfway through January!  I’ve just been kind of busy recently and I wanted to post this so I could officially move on from 2020 – for good.  I did have this article partially written up, all ready to be completed and published, I just… didn’t.  I had other ideas for articles, then I felt like it was too late, but now I am finally sat down here, on a mission to do this, for my mental health more than anything else.

I had lots of great plans for 2020, it’s just a shame that I didn’t exactly get to achieve all of them…. Nonetheless, I was on a mission to make the most of it, no matter what!  In my post my 2019; I discussed what big plans I had for the year ahead and my top goals and how I was going to be coming back at the end of the year, hopefully to tell you how well I did!  Even though I didn’t get to achieve all my plans (a moment of silence please for The Killers concert, Six performance and the trip to America that never was), I still managed to try and achieve all eleven goals I set myself, and I’m here to prove it!

So, without further ado, these are the goals I set myself, and an honest response as to whether or not I did it!

  1. Become better with physical contact! This one did take some time; I’ll be honest with you.  I was getting a lot better, but then certain events took place which meant that I was back too square one.  Luckily though, through continued support of friends and family, therapy experiences, medication, and my own will, I finally did it!  Now I can confidently say to you that I only slightly flinch when I’m not expecting someone to touch me but I’m normally completely okay with it!  Of course, I do still have some moments which are tricky, but I am getting on in leaps and bounds, considering I used to freak out and have a panic attack when anyone reached out to touch me, so I am very proud of myself.
  2. Partake in a protest/march. Okay, I have an excuse for this!  I wanted to but due to coronavirus, I didn’t really feel comfortable partaking in any of the BLM marches/protests.  It’s a shame, but I’m carrying on this goal to 2021!!
  3. Go to a pride event.  Yet again, due to COVID, I couldn’t go to a pride event which was a shame.  But yet again, 2021, I will be going!  Hopefully!
  4. Try to post once a week!  This one honestly started out so well!  It’s just a shame that I burnt myself out and became super busy.  This year I am going to post at my own pace, whatever I want, whenever I want.  It’s worked pretty well for me so far, so let’s hope it stays that way!
  5. Pass at least five GCSEs.  Whilst I didn’t actually get to do the exams, I took thig goal and my word I ran with it!  Not only did I pass five, I passed all the core subjects and all my other exams too! (more on that here), so I’d say, yeah, I think I achieved this goal pretty well!
  6. Become my own person.  After a long process of “self-discovery” I guess you’d call it, I think I’ve finally done it!  I’m now proud to say I’m not “a part of” anyone or anything else, I am completely just Tatiana, no more, no less – and that’s just the way I like it!
  7. Become someone others look up to.  I think I did that.  After I helped a kid in year eight, I realised I could become a good role model, despite certain rebellious ways and features!  I hope that as I grow up and develop myself more, that I become more of a role model and others are inspired by my story of growth, instead of just feeling sorry for me.
  8. Get out more!  God, what irony am I right?  Despite being unable to go out for a lot of 2020, I did manage to go outside and – when it was legal – socialise!  I definitely tried to achieve this, despite things trying to stop me!
  9. Stop feeling bad about what I can’t control.  Man, 2019 Tati was a prophet, wasn’t she?!  I think that during therapy, I really tackled this goal head on.  It was something which I struggled with the most, and I’m proud to say that I am doing a lot better!  I feel like I now have far more control in my own life, due to the fact that I’ve accepted the fact that I can control certain aspects of my life.  All’s well that ends well!
  10. Read More!  I think I’ve done that! It’s been a struggle to keep my focus, but I’m definitely a lot better.  I’m now on my third book of 2021, so I am pretty proud of myself.
  11. Never lose sight of my morals.  Something I will stay true to until the end.  I have my morals which I keep close to my heart, and no matter what, I will not ever betray them – which I think is pretty sound advice too!

Lockdown 3: Staying Motivated (even though it’s super hard!)

They do always say third time’s the charm… Maybe we’ll finally knock out the virus this time?


Only the second post of the year and it’s already gone to shit… yeesh.

Since the excitement of staying at home wore off… almost a year ago, it’s super hard to stay positive during yet another national lockdown. However, most of 2020 was about making the most of a bad situation, and even though it’s going to be super hard, it’s important that we try and keep moral up throughout this lockdown. My gorgeous girlie Blondie said that it would be a very positive thing if I wrote an article on how to keep motivated during lockdown, so I am giving that to you lovely lot! I’ll be honest with you, this was a hard article to write because as of recently, I cannot help but be slightly cynical about everything that’s going on. Nonetheless, writing this cheered me up immensely. Of course, it’s completely fair to be pissed about it all, I’m pissed about it all! This is going to be tricky, but we’ve got this. We’re strong, we’re doing good, we have Taylor Swift on our side, we can do this together!

DISCLAIMER: I know this is a difficult time for us all, there’s no sugar coating it. if you feel as though you need extra support, please don’t hesitate to contact any of the numbers here. Remember, no matter how much you feel it at times, you are not alone.

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My Main Aim This Lockdown:

My overall goal for this lockdown is to get shit done, and look good while doing it.
I don't care what it is I'm doing, but you better believe that I am going to be looking my absolute best and working to be my absolute best so I'm ready for post-lockdown season!

The Personal Bits and Bobs I Will Be Doing:

My AS exams have been cancelled, but so far my A Levels have not, so most of my lockdown will be spent on Microsoft Teams, trying to scribble down notes from lessons, ensuring I understand it all, and just trying my hardest to be prepped for my A Levels! This is a good thing as it keeps my mind active. It stops the boredom seeping in, and it’s very good just for life in general!

On top of this, I will be doing daily workouts and fitness (more on this later!) and I’m doing something with a few of my friends where we’re going to have daily/weekly catch ups.

I am a complete social butterfly. I thrive off of speaking to others, which is the main reason I struggled so much in lockdown number one. This time, I have organised Skype calls with my boyfriend daily (something we’ve been doing since before Christmas), and weekly FaceTime calls with my gorgeous girl-friend. This is a great way to catch up with all of their crazy ways, gossip about whatever is on our mind and just generally have some interaction with others my own age.

Another thing which I’ll be doing this lockdown (much like I did in the previous two lockdowns) is I will be preparing myself for amazing, wonderful things after lockdown. By the end of this lockdown, I’ll have a to-do list ready and waiting to be completed, ready and waiting to make memories. This was one of the things which has kept me going for so long and I’m not letting it go when I need it most!

What I Am Doing To Help My Mental Health:

As you know, my mental wellbeing is something which I have struggled with for years now. However I am most definitely on the mend, I still have a bit of a way to go, and that’s okay! One big plan which I have for this lockdown is my new mini-challenge which I’d love you all to take part in! get dolled up with no-where to go is a new plan which lets me treat every day like it’s a fashion show, wearing all my cute outfits, trying out new makeup looks, and just generally taking care of myself and my appearance. It helps me to feel more in control of my life, which is something I think we can all agree I need now more than ever.

Something else which I began in December was looking after something other than myself. I bought three cacti from IKEA and I love them with my whole heart. They look cute, they give me the motivation to get out of bed, they’re not too high maintenance and they are super cute! Whenever I feel upset I remind myself I need to look after my plants, whom I have endearingly named “my children”. It honestly helps a lot and I recommend anyone who’s feeling a lack of motivation currently.

Finally, I will be doing a bunch of hobbies and things which cheer me up, and I will be talking about those more later! Feel free to use my ideas, I hope you find they help!

What I’m Doing to Help My Physical Health:

As I mentioned in my last post, I am going to be working on my wellbeing and fitness, and I will be explaining it a little more here.

As I briefly mentioned, my boyfriend has made me see fitness a whole new way. He showed me what wonders it’s done for his own self-confidence, and I’m sure you’ll reap the benefits also. It’s incredibly good for your wellbeing, releasing endorphins into your body, and overall just getting that post-lockdown-ready-for-the-beach-body! Soon I’ll be posting a list of exercises which are COVID Friendly – meaning you can do them at home, with no extra equipment!

I will also be looking after my skin, using masks I got for Christmas from MadBeauty, sticking to a strict skincare routine, eating healthier and drinking lots of water!

All of these things are very important to consider, and don’t forget to go outside once a day, and get that Vitamin D!

Things to Think About – Ideas and Inspiration for Lockdown Activities:

Of course, as much as I love to, I don’t want to just talk about me for this whole post! This is also about you, your mental wellbeing and what will help you during these tough times. Hopefully some of these ideas will help and if you have any more, feel free to comment them, I’d love to hear your ideas!!

  • Start a new hobby! Sky’s the limit.
  • If you’re a dab hand at sewing, why not sew face masks for you and your family? Protect yourself and those you love, but why not look cute doing it?!
  • Drawing! Last lockdown, I really loved going on walks and seeing all the rainbows in the windows and the “Thank you NHS” signs and more! I really want to keep that up this time so, you know what to do!
  • Read! It never hurts to transport yourself to a COVID-Free world! Currently I have set myself a mini challenge to read 12 books in 12 months, let’s see how I get on!
  • Netflix! The Office (US) is on the UK Netflix now so… what are you waiting for?! It’s brilliant, and I can guarantee you I’ll be watching it over and over again.
  • Cooking/baking! It’s a calming chemical reaction following a recipe, which I enjoy hugely. No time like the present!
  • Try out new makeup looks! If they fail horrifically, who’s going to know?
  • Organise your house – get a head start on spring cleaning! You got this.
  • Keep your mind active, playing logic games, things like Trivia or even Monopoly, watching game shows and yelling the answers at the TV and getting annoyed when the contestants are wrong, they’re fun pastimes which will keep you alert which is always good
  • Take some photos! Sing! Dance! get creative!
  • And most importantly, have at least 20 minutes each day to just… breathe. You need it, just calm down and relax!